How to Choose Joy and Have a Great Day

Hey, everybody.

Are you having a great day?

Yes.

Oh, no, you're not.

It's okay.

I got you.

I'm Tif Loeffler.

Welcome to Positively Yours.

I'm going to share Tif's tips, techniques, and

a little bit of magic to help you

up level and have a great day every

day.

Are you ready to get started?

Yeah!

Oh, you're not?

That's okay.

I still got you.

Let's go.

It is all well, fine, and good to

want to have a great day.

And also, where is this all going?

I love when I ask myself these questions,

and just in case you're also asking, I

would love to do my best to answer

that in this moment that we have.

I love that there are the concepts of

the internal and the external mind, and how

we grow up, and how we have our

experiences shape who we are today, and having

a great day in the present moment is

everything because we only have today.

But when I say we only have today

or we just have today, today is everything

because we're making a powerful choice to be

in it.

And that's what I love.

And we are actioning, and we are doing.

And if we need to relax a bit,

be a bit reflective.

Take a rest, take care of ourselves.

I would like to offer to have a

great day, to take a fabulous stand for

your greatness.

That is not selfish.

I like to call it selfing, just selfing,

selfing.

They're selfish.

They're selfless is where you give everything away,

all your power, all your resources, all your

energy, because someone else just decided you're making

the decisions.

And I call that selfing.

I know that some people say, oh, adulting

is so hard.

And then I think, yes, and also grown

-up being is super awesome because when you're

a grown-up, you feel like you can

make more decisions.

I will say randomly, you know what, if

I stop by the bakery and buy myself

a donut, yeah, I could do that.

Guess what?

I'm grown-upping.

That's I want it.

I got the, I got the funds.

I've got the transportation.

I have a few minutes and I'm hungry

for a donut.

Yay.

That's an example of I feel grown-upping

adulting in a fabulous way.

And once in a while, that's how I

have a great day saying to myself.

I'd like a donut today.

Thank you.

Okay.

So again, selfing, so I appreciate being able

to talk about that a bit.

I want you to think about self-care.

It's selfing.

Okay, and it's for you and what's best

for you is best for everyone because you're

coming from a place of integrity and a

grounded love for yourself that is not only

grounded on this beautiful planet that we're on

but it's also connected to the stars because

we're all stardust.

We came from stardust kind of amazing and

we're here living our lives.

And we have the rest of our lives

to live.

So this is where I'm so excited to

talk about the vision the vision of why

why is Tif always talking about it's important

to have a great day and I thought

about also why I say it's a great

day, you know, have a nice day have

a nice day.

I like that.

There are some some songs in movies and

television have a nice day doesn't always mean

have a nice day and I could tell

you to have a good day and good

is good, but is it great?

That's why I just think let's set the

standard for ourselves very high and also very

achievable.

We are here to have a great day

every day as best we can because we

are here to have a great life and

it starts with today.

You take it one day at a time.

And there are highs and there are lows

and the reason I've talked about the internal

and the external is simply because we have

days where we don't even know for having

a great day.

Am I having a great day?

I mean, I know I'm having parts of

a great day.

And for me just having a moment of

a great day recognizing it that is such

an easy wonderful flowing way of having a

great day.

Just remind myself, you know what I had

lunch with a friend today.

Oh, I got to talk to someone about

what I'm working on and a very excited

for me.

Even if they're not I'm excited for me.

That's awesome.

I remember that.

Oh, I took a walk today.

I was out in nature.

I saw wild animals because there's wild turkeys

that walk around and it's so fun to

see that I got to have a delicious

cup of coffee.

That was a carded cardamom.

I can say a cardamom vanilla latte and

I've never had one of those before and

it was super delicious.

That is a great day.

And then when you build upon all of

these that to me is how we start

to create that world vision of other people

having a great day when we can talk

about and celebrate all the wins any little

win is a win and there's a very

I feel without being able to scientifically talk

about it why it is important for us

to put more emphasis on the syllables of

having a great day.

Your brain is wired to.

Remember things that weren't so great in order

to not do them again fabulous and that

is okay.

That's a good thing and also let's expand

upon that and multiply it and how do

I say this just compounded by saying yes

and also when I consciously choose to recognize

that something is going great today and even

just take a moment to anchor just go

you know what I'm on this podcast right

now.

I am having a great day.

This is awesome.

Take a breath and just feel it.

In my body just right now feeling good.

I'm feeling great.

I'm feeling great.

See right there.

I could have just just right there.

I said, yeah, I'm feeling good.

Excellent.

It's good.

You can start there just start with I'm

feeling okay.

Feeling fine feeling good.

I'm feeling great.

I'm actually feeling great and then your body

and your mind synergistic and they think and

they feel she likes that and she wants

more of that than perhaps let's be open

to the possibility of more of that because

I will tell you it doesn't take much

I've seen it in others and in myself

that you can very quickly not have a

great day because you are either not recognizing

all the great things that are happening or

through any moment in time something will happen

and all of a sudden you're like what's

even happening to me?

Am I having a great day?

Maybe I'm not and that's not a good

thing or a great thing.

So what's great?

I'll tell you what a better world for

me is simply people recognizing that they have

the choice to make your date great when

people are feeling great more often than not

so I will say more often they are

they're happier.

They have a joy in their life and

joy doesn't mean that toxic positivity of the

sky's falling everything's great.

What joy means is you are feeling all

of it fully because you know that is

what you are here to do on this

planet and also that involves the happiness the

fun the whimsy and it's not just for

a certain tiny moment in time or certain

special occasions.

No, that's I'm feeling kind of a little

lightheaded right now.

It's so fun to think about people who

have joy in their lives who are having

a great day more often are healthier because

they're taking steps to create the world that

they want to live in for themselves by

getting enough sleep by moving their bodies by

eating delicious foods that are good for them

for resting for recreation for being with people

that they love for connecting that key of

C that connection and again kindness.

Kindness is not weakness.

Kindness is the most incredible strength that there

is because we are here for one of

two feelings.

We either feel into the fear or we

feel into the love and when you are

filled with love that is the most powerful

feeling and it expresses itself in many ways

including be kind to each other.

I could think of an example right now

of a that it just happened today a

kindness was exchanged.

I went to lunch with a friend and

I was a bit distracted and not only

did I leave my sunglasses on the counter.

I left my sweater on the counter and

I didn't even realize I forgot my sunglasses

till I got to the car and also

and I'm just going to share with you.

I realized I hadn't left a tip and

there is no way that I am going

to leave with I couldn't even leave out.

I just thought maybe I know I have

to go back not even thinking about the

sunglasses and I went back in and I

saw I want to clear my table.

I know they do it for me, but

they're busy.

I want to help them and I went

up to the counter and they have a

little tip jar and I put the tip

in there.

I'm so grateful that I remembered to do

that because I don't want to drive home

thinking and I thought wait, and I just

happen to ask, you know, I'm not sure

I might have left my sunglasses and sure

enough, they gave me my sunglasses and also

my sweater, which I totally forgot about and

I'm making this an example of a great

day and I said, oh, thank you so

much.

I gave them the opportunity to help me

have a great day and I'm so happy

that I was having a great day and

let them know that and I think that

that's just one tiny random example of we're

here on the earth to take care of

each other.

We're not here to do anything other.

We are here to have fun and get

things done and my vision is to do

my very best to help people recognize within

themselves that they have the power to make

the choices to have a great day.

I would love to tell you I have

all the answers.

I have many ideas.

I have visions.

I have support all over the place.

I am your cheerleader and also.

I am very humble to say I am

not the answer.

I can't tell you what to do or

how to do it much as I'd like

to at times.

I can simply be myself and you can

simply be yourself and together we create a

great day through that through living in joy

through having a great day by being us.

When I think about how I would like

the world to be, you know, if I

could wave the magic wand, but guess what?

I can wave the magic wand every day

by going out there and treating myself with

utmost care and confidence and respect and love

and being who I am.

You know what?

It's okay to be me.

It's okay to be you.

And also sometimes it's nice to have some

support and I think that's cool.

There are times where I have heard people

say, well, you don't want to say you

want to help people.

I get it.

Sometimes words can trigger us.

So whoever you're connecting with, please understand it's

okay to say to them.

If you said this, I it's kind of

I'm not quite sure what you mean about

that or maybe I'm feeling a little.

I understand that sometimes we're like, do I

really need help?

I don't know that I need help.

Why are you telling me I need help?

Is there something wrong with me?

Hey, there's everything right with you.

And also we have moments where I might

need a little extra and that's what I

love about helping supporting people.

There's a difference between supporting someone and enabling

them.

There's a difference between helping someone see how

they can truly help themselves or cater to

someone's.

A victim mode, a martyr mode.

We're all there at times.

I've been there, but that's not how to

have a great day.

That's giving away your power and you are

very powerful and power is excellent.

And I take the bold declaration that to

have a great day means you are powerful.

We have seen too many instances of people

who are not nice people.

I'm going to say they're complete jerks and

they're very powerful and you think great.

I become powerful then I'm a jerk.

I'm here to tell you that's not how

it works and I had a thought pop

in my head and I must also remind

you that time and money do not equate

freedom.

I just had to say that I know

you're like, where is this coming from tip?

That's kind of out of kind of what

here's what I mean.

It does not take a lot of time

or a lot of money or any of

either to have a great day.

And also you could have all the time

in the world and all the money in

the world.

And if you don't take your power.

It doesn't matter.

You could still have a completely awful day.

Those things do not equate a great day

and I wanted to bring that in just

to remind us that it's okay at any

given time to have that because people all

the time talk about well, when you have

the time and the money and the free,

you know, that equals the freedom the freedom.

I feel I'm going to be a bit

arrogant.

I admit and just say hey, I feel

that in order to have a great day

requires neither.

It simply requires that you take a powerful

stand to be in the present moment and

say I make a choice right now.

That's how you have a great day and

then guess what resources reveal themselves and you

are able to see how time which is

this interesting kind of constraint in our 3d

world that we're on this planet and money

that is simply in exchange for goods and

services can work with you rather than against

you and I'm all about working with people.

Okay, you know you can either you know,

the enemy friend thing.

I'm all about making friends.

Okay, I'm not here to do anything other

than make friends have fun and get things

done.

So that's where I want to talk in

a little bit about hey.

I am open for comments and conversation and

what I think is so cool is that

we're here on the inspired speakers Network platform

where if you are connected here or in

YouTube, you can make comments, which I think

is super cool.

And if you're not on a platform that

can do that and you would like to

then feel free to join us here because

I think and feel and know that having

well inspired conversations.

Speaking in an inspired way is quite a

lovely way to have a great day and

for a vision.

Of what a world looks like in which

people are having a great day is when

they do feel that they have the freedom

to say that because it's rooted in love

and we are here to connect with each

other and we are here to build upon

our experiences and our adventures life is an

adventure.

Sometimes the adventure can feel not great.

It can feel very sad or very hurtful.

It can make you feel sad or scared

or angry and I understand that that just

saying that I feel the weight of it.

And also there is always that possibility to

take a moment take a breath and say

I get it like right now is just

not feeling that great and also I can

take a breath.

I can take a moment.

And know that in this moment just right

at the moment, even if something tragic just

happened just okay that happened and right now

I'm taking a breath and it's okay and

from that beautiful moment that precious moment.

Okay, your brain says, okay, I get you

at this very moment.

But what about yeah, yeah, or what's gonna

okay.

Yeah, yeah right now just a moment.

I'm right here.

So I'm really happy and grateful and joyful

that I am creating a world for myself

and I am building things right now right

now.

The podcast was the first grand expression of

that vision for being here for people working

and playing with them to create a great

day and I love this podcast.

It's so much fun and I'm so looking

forward to all the wonderful people that I

will talk to and all of the grand

ideas and the amazing experiences and the fabulous

adventures to share and it just starts with

today.

Just having that moment inside of you that

says, you know what?

Today is a great day and it feels

great.